Enough with useless video games and Christmas sweaters that will never see the light of day. This year, give the independent learner in your life a gift that they can use to develop their skills. Here are a few that we love:
Subscription to Treehouse
For the self-directed learner in your life who is trying to learn code. Treehouse is an online learning platform that makes learning code easy and fun. A subscription to treehouse is $25 a month for a basic account and $49 a month for a pro account.
Eats, Shoots and Leaves by Lynne Truss
A boring book for Christmas? Not so fast – Eats, Shoots and Leaves is an entertaining way for people of all ages to learn or reinforce fundamental grammatical rules. Truss’ diction and witty examples are ludicrous and laugh out loud fun for any young adult. It’s the type of reference book everyone should have on their shelves.
Anyone who wants or currently is learning a new language needs a phrasebook. It won’t teach all the grammatical structures needed to master a language, but it will help boost vocabulary. A pocket-sized phrasebook costs around $10 and is especially handy while on the road.
CreativeLive is a live, interactive classroom perfect for creative self-directed learners. They feature courses taught by world-renown artists and entrepreneurs on topics such as photography, music production, creative entrepreneurship and even cake decorating! If you know a self-directed learner interested in honing their creative skills, introduce them to CreativeLive.
Getting Things Done by David Allen
All self-directed learners know the importance of efficiency. Getting Things Done, is a roadmap to stress-free organization and performance that anyone from a CEO to a young student can use. Allen’s premise is simple: productivity is directly proportional to our ability to relax and our minds are meant for creating ideas, not storing them. When our minds are clear and our thoughts are organized, there’s nothing we can’t achieve.
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Self-directed learners should network just as much as any businessman. To do that, give them a set of business cards with a witty title. It will make them feel professional in their quest to learn more and better themselves.
What makes Udemy different is that its courses focus on learning real-world skills. These are for the self-directed learner who wants to learn something they can put into practice and benefit from right away. Some courses on Udemy are free, but for the money-conscious learner, you can get them one of the courses that they have interest in, but don’t want to front the cost for. The price of Udemy courses range from a dollar to several hundred dollars.
Hacking Your Education by Dale J. Stephens
If you know someone who is ready to make the leap and drop out of school, there’s no better resource than Dale Stephen’s Hacking Your Education. Dale explains to readers that they do not need to be a genius or especially motivated to succeed outside school. The real requirements are much simpler: curiosity, confidence, and grit. You can find it on amazon for $12.
Culture shock can leave travellers feeling misunderstood, exhausted, disoriented and altogether unsatisfied with their trip. Instead of enjoying their time abroad, they end up feeling lonely, sometimes isolating themselves because there’s too much stress from being in new surroundings with new cultural rules.
In order to adequately prepare for your trip and to make the most of your time abroad, you should take a few basic measures against culture shock before it happens. The best way to combat culture shock is to:
If you learn about and understand culture shock before your time abroad, you will have a much more meaningful experience during your trip. You’ll be able to better handle the pressure of being in a new place, and you will learn from your experiences more effectively.
Here are three things to study before you jump on that plane, train or automobile to your next destination.
1. The Language
There’s nothing that is more frustrating than being in a position where you can’t communicate. Take the time to learn some essential words and phrases to help you interact with others.
Use free resources like Duolingo, Livemocha, Babble, and the Foreign Service Institute if you don’t feel like spending a hefty amount of money on software like Rosetta Stone or Pimsleur. Buying a pocket phrasebook to take with you to your destination is also a great help when you know what you need to say, but not how to say it.
Remember: you don’t have to be fluent before you go, but for your own sake and the people you will be interacting with, try to learn as much as you can. The people you meet will appreciate it, and it will help you acclimate to the culture more than you know.
2. The Culture
Pick up a guidebook or two and spend some time getting to know the place you’re going to be arriving in soon. The internet has tons of information for people travelling abroad in any capacity; utilize it. A few good websites are Lonely Planet, Rough Guides, and Frommer’s (all of which sell physical guidebooks as well). You can also find free country profiles and culture guides to help you learn about cross-cultural differences. The more you know about the physical location and culture of your destination, the better you will adapt.
You should also do specific research on things like political history, dangerous areas to avoid, important figures and common idioms. While you’re doing this, try to get a general sense of how most people in this country feel about people from your country, and try to remember that while going abroad is an adventure, you’re also having that adventure in someone’s home. You’re a guest there – try to be a well-informed and respectful one.
3. Culture Shock
In the same vein of educating yourself on the country and the language, you should know the signs of culture shock.
First, know that culture shock doesn’t hit you all at once. At first, people often feel very euphoric. In the scheme of cultural adjustment, this is often referred to as the “honeymoon” phase. This when the traveller is captivated by how new and cool everything is.
When people are in this phase, they think they will be immune to culture shock, but that is rarely the case.
The second stage of cultural adjustment is what we commonly refer to as culture shock. The effects of culture shock can be small things, like feeling tired or annoyed more than usual to big things like feeling lonely, isolated, developing chronic fatigue, lethargy, insomnia, and a loss in appetite. There are many psychological and physical symptoms of culture shock.
When you start to notice these, realize that what you’re experiencing is real and that this is culture shock. Reach out to people around you and tell them what you’re experiencing. Make time for self-care and be sure to communicate with others often. By doing this and keeping a positive mindset, you will progress to finally acclimating to the culture you are in.
Making Your Time Abroad Meaningful
The most important tool in combatting culture shock and making the most of any experience is keeping a positive mindset. Having a positive mindset is helpful in all areas of life, especially dealing with something difficult like culture shock. Though a lot of this has to come from within, there are a few ways to make it easier for yourself, such as making friends, getting physical exercise and seeking new experiences.
All in all, the experience you have is entirely up to you. Instead of feeling like cultural differences are a burden, think of it as something valuable that you are coming to understand and in turn, gaining knowledge that empowers yourself. You have power over how your trip impacts you. And, now that you know what you’re headed for, you’re one step closer to ensuring that you have an amazing experience abroad.
These days, Henry Ford is a household name, but it hasn’t always been that way. At 23, Ford was just a machinist’s apprentice with big aspirations.
A few years later, he was known as an intelligent, yet failed engineer who just couldn’t produce. His need to perfect every product he created led to late deliveries to customers that tarnished his early reputation.
But it was these early failures that taught him valuable lessons and sparked his future success.
His first lesson came when he designed his first automobile, the Quadricycle. There’s a good reason why you’ve probably never heard of the Quadricycle: it wasn’t fit for mass-production. But it did get young Henry Ford’s name out there, leading him to his first financial backers and his first company: The Detroit Automotive Company.
Detroit Automotive Company had a similar, short-lived history like the Quadricycle. Despite having William H. Murphy, one of the most prominent businessmen of the time as a financial backer, Ford still couldn’t get his product fine-tuned enough to sell. Perfectionism got the best of him and after a year and a half of tinkering, he still had nothing to show for his work. Murphy, along with all the stockholders, began to show concern. Soon, the board of directors dissolved and the company disbanded. It was a short-lived project and a failure in the eyes of the industry.
In the bureaucratic automotive industry of the early 1900’s, getting a second chance was a rarity. But after reflecting on his failure, Ford contacted Murphy yet again and offered new ideas and solutions to past problems. Murphy gave him a second chance with the condition that he work with a supervisor. For Ford, being supervised by someone who knew nothing about engineering and design was infuriating and unacceptable. He left his arrangement and decided to try other ways to achieve his dream.
“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” — Henry Ford
With a tarnished reputation and no financial backers, Ford was in a bad spot. He knew he had to work around the system somehow. After months of looking for an unconventional backer who wouldn’t interfere with his s design processes, he found the right man – Alexander Malcomson.
He now had the backing he needed to begin creating the automobile he had always envisioned – the Model A. To take care of the distribution and business matters that had plagued Ford in the past, he brought in James J. Couzens to be the Vice President of Ford Motor Company.
The first batch of the Model A’s were anything but flawless. In fact, they had so many problems that the Ford Motor Company had to send mechanics to every corner of the country to fix cars. But when the mechanics came back, they came back with feedback; feedback that Ford immediately implemented in his assembly line. With the help of Couzens, they kept shipping, kept making mistakes and kept learning.
It would take 5 more years and countless failures before the Ford Motor Company came out with the world’s best automobile – the Model T. The Model T revolutionized the automobile industry and brought Ford to the forefront of that industry. Not only that, he helped establish Detroit as one of the biggest, wealthiest cities in America.
What’s important to notice is Ford’s perseverance and ability to overcome setbacks. He used failure and the feedback gathered from those failures to fine tune his design ideas and eventually change the way we get around town.
If you have a vision or if you are searching for your vision, keep at it.
Show some grit, work hard and soon, your efforts will pay off. They might even drive you into the history books like Henry Ford.
The following is a guest post by Radhika Morabia a high school dropout, diploma holder and creator of rmorabia.com. If you like what you read, visit her blog for more.
It was May of 2014. I’d just received a call saying I officially failed school. They were being nice and just counting it as if I wasn’t enrolled for the whole semester. It was as if the dozens of hours I spent worrying and attempting to catch up counted for nothing.
Growing up, I was a good student. I got As, and at worst, Bs. I joined the GATE program when I was 8 (you take an IQ test and if you score high enough, you join a special program that looks good on paper, but generally does nothing.), I was in all honors in middle school, I was in as many APs (Advanced Placement, or college-level courses) as I could be in high school, eventually reaching 4 APs in my Junior year. I was on track to go to one of the top 30 universities in the US.
Things took a turn in November of 2011 (my Freshman year of high school), when I took on too much at once (typical high school advice) and even suffering an injury that caused permanent damage to my knees. Thanks to incompetent, judgmental doctors and my own denial, I let it get worse and worse until I had to leave school. I began to be in and of alternative schools, sometimes heading back to my normal high school because I could never understand the alternative schools. In the end, though, I was at a seemingly perfect alternative program, where I only had to show up twice and week and could do my work whenever I wanted, and I finally failed.
There were no other options in front of me. We tried every alternative program that would guarantee a normal high school diploma, and I just couldn’t do it. Finally, when I failed, I gave up. I said I was dropping out of school, including skipping college.
I’d been involved in the alternative online world for years now, and saw plenty of normal people, just like me, doing jobs that never asked for any kind of formal credential. I knew I could do it, so I’d been studying web development for the past few months. I would eventually drop that and pursue freelance marketing, which leads us to where I am today.
But, my parents wouldn’t let me drop out so easily. It was fine if I wanted to pursue work, but what if that failed without a formal degree? I needed some kind of backup plan.
So, I decided to do the bare minimum it took to graduate. I finally completed that a few weeks ago, with a total investment of less than 10 hours of work.
Don’t believe me? Take a look at my fancy certificate:
That’s right. I’m officially a high school dropout and a graduate. I’m also making enough money to live on without ever mentioning my formal credentials, which is the whole reason people get a degree, right?
If you or someone you know is considering dropping out of high school, I believe I’ve now been on this path long enough to offer some advice.
NOTE: Everything mentioned here only applies to the US, and if you want to get specific, to California. Look up your own laws and alternatives, I only know what works for where I live.
How to Drop Out of High School
Step 1: Why do you want to drop out of high school?
You seriously need to ask yourself why you want to drop out.
Is it because of some social issues you’d rather run away from? Is it because you feel like you’re working towards no gain? Is there a better opportunity waiting for you that school is keeping you from?
With most of these problems, there’s alternatives to dropping out entirely. You can transfer schools, you can take easier classes, you can join an alternative school, etc..
If your problem is that you think the system is working against you and you’re just not good at school, remember that when you leave school, you’re entering the workforce. Being in school can serve as a great default option as you’re building your skills, network, or business. Once you drop out, you’re expected to get out there and make your own money.
Ryan Holiday, one of the poster children of dropout success, says this on the subject: “Have you fully taken advantage of the unique opportunities that are offered to students? Because let me tell you, the world is much kinder to students. The second you leave you’re now competition.”
Are you sure you’re ready to compete with people with degrees who used school to easily get internships and gain experience? As much as you hate school, you can still dip your toes into the workforce while still having financial support from your parents.
Unlike college, there is no going back to high school. Sure, you can always get your GED, but a GED is still looked down upon in comparison to getting a real, state-issued high school diploma.
In order to justify dropping out entirely, you need to do your research and confirm that there is absolutely no other option. Run your options and reasoning over with your parents, your friends, and other people you respect. They’ll point out the flaws in your reasoning quickly. Listen to them, but remember, they’ve either made their fortune on the safe path or are betting that they will, so take what they say with a grain of salt.
If you want someone who’s been down this path to think critically with you, feel free to get in contact with me. I’d love to help you out.
Step 2: Find alternatives.
In 99% of cases, you won’t need to drop out of high school entirely. The US is obsessed with their drop out rates and offer a ton of options that can work with your constraints and wishes.
There’s online school, there’s alternative schools, there’s independent study programs, or there’s what I eventually took–an exam. Look this up in your own state, but this is how I graduated from high school:
I was initially thrust into everything listed above. I was in an independent study program with my local high school, I then joined online school, and I was finally in an alternative school. Along the way, I went back and tried some of these methods twice, and even went back to my local high school as a normal student. None of it worked.
When I decided to drop out, I thought I was going to take the GED. Instead, I scoured around and a friend told me about the CHSPE.
I spent a few hours reading up on it and talking to people about it. It was a test that would give a high school-equivalent diploma. It isn’t a real diploma, but in most cases, it would be treated as the same thing. I could definitely go to college with this thing, which was the only reason I wanted a diploma.
I bought a prep book, took a practice test, and passed that. I promised myself I’d study more just in case, but I honestly didn’t because I was building up my business instead.
In the middle of my 6 weeks of bedrest, I went and took the test at a local high school. I was sick and tired, so I rushed through it and got out an hour early.
I waited a month, and then I got an email with the results. I passed. The above diploma came in the mail a few days later.
That was it. I’m a high school graduate, now.
That method worked for me because I like tests a lot more than work, and I was in quite advanced classes while I was attending school. The test was on subjects I passed in middle school.
Testing out might not be for you. Your problem with school might be test anxiety sabotaging your grades. Then, you might want to look into alternative schools. The school I failed from was entirely work-based. You do the work at home, show up 2x a week and turn your work in, and you might have to take a few tests, but nowhere near the amount you take in normal school. It sounds like heaven for a lot of people, but I’m just so much more of a test person.
Or, you might want to travel. You might have an opportunity to go abroad for 6 months with that non-profit you got involved with a few years ago. You don’t need to drop out, just enroll in online school. You can take the same classes as normal school. My online school was free, public, and I took all the APs I normally would.
There’s so many options. Before you drop out entirely, talk to your school counselor, talk to other people, search the government websites, and you’ll find a lot. Don’t glaze over any option because you’ve been in the default system for so long. It’s entirely possible to get a degree without slaving in school for 8+ hours a day.
Step 3: What’s your plan?
Now that you know there are alternatives… What next? What do you plan to do with your extra time? Are you just going to sit at home and play video games? I love video games, too, but you’re dropping out for something bigger, right?
If you don’t already have a plan, check out Charlie Hoehn’s free guide titled Recession-Proof Graduate. Read it long before you drop out to help you figure out your plan and to give you a method to jumpstart your way to achieving that plan.
You also need to figure out some adult things. Figure out where you’re going to make money, where you want to stay (it’s okay to live with your parents for a while as long as you’re working towards something), what you have to do if you still want to go to college, etc..
This will take much longer than a few hours or even a weekend. I’ve been alternative since 2012 and I finally took the dropout path in May, but I’m still working towards finding the answers to these questions myself. It will take a while, and you’ll have to figure out a lot as you go.
Step 4: Ignore the naysayers.
Above, I said to listen to feedback from your parents, friends, and people you trust in your life.
There is a very big difference between feedback and negativity.
It’s good to have unbiased views in your life that call you out when you’re about to make mistakes. But, that’s the key word, unbiased.
Everyone is biased. I’m biased towards self-education and the alternative path, while your parents who both got PhDs from respected universities are entirely biased towards success through the traditional path.
If you’re going down the alternative path, some people will get offended and think of it as a personal attack on themselves. Others won’t understand at all because they’re only around people who have achieved great success through the traditional path. Some people are just plain negative and bitter. There’s no pleasing them.
Remember, you don’t live to please them. You live to please yourself.
You really need to draw the line between what feedback that will help you is and feedback that will hurt you is. You need feedback and support, but you can’t let irrelevant strangers influence your decisions.
It’s difficult, but here’s how I’ve done it:
Create a list of people you want to be like and about them specifically you’d like to emulate.
Ask them for advice about your plan, but only ask questions that fit into what about them you want to emulate. Be as specific as possible. Anyone who you never want to be like should not be taken seriously, except as an example of what to never do. Even if someone you respect gives you advice, unless there’s a specific trait you’d like to emulate from them, just toss that advice out.
Also, remember, asking people about what made them successful in their time is probably irrelevant to how you can achieve that today.
You need to look at every piece of advice with a critical eye. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t ask for loads of advice. I’ve sent the most generic, desperate emails at 1AM and gotten life-changing advice from both one-line responses and long essays in response. It’s so worth it.
Step 5: Do it, or don’t.
Every person who reads this post and takes the time to think through each step will reach a different conclusion here. Some of you will decide you should just stick it out in school. Others are going to drop out of school (or join an alternative program), and then head to college. People like me will do the bare minimum to get college acceptance if needed, and want all the time in the world to develop themselves, their network, and their skills.
If you learned anything from this post, hopefully, it’s that there are a ton of alternatives to dropping out completely that are actually much easier to do.
If you’ve done something very cool and alternative, please email me tell me about it. I’m always looking to meet other ambitious alternative types.
If you want be an ambitious alternative type and don’t know what to do, email me as well. I’d love to help you out and point you in the right direction.
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Writing is a skill that is never idle. It’s a skill we use everyday and every ad, every article, the text on every website, and the scripts for anything you watch must be written by someone. Yet, for some reason, we we all know someone who is afraid to put pen to paper.
Whether or not you have an excuse like “my high school English teacher was awful” or not, writing is a skill you need to master.
By improving your writing, you can improve your communication with the world. It’s not just written communication either – if you can articulate on paper, you can do so at a higher level in spoken word. Having clear writing forces you to list out thoughts in a logical way that people can follow. The more quality your writing has, the more powerful your communication becomes and the more seriously people are going to listen to what you have to say.
Need a Reason to Write Well?
A recent study shows that according to employers, most people applying for jobs don’t possess sufficient written communication skills.
The benefits of clear written thoughts won’t just help you in a job, but they will help you get one as well. The staple of any great resume is a solid summary of your skills and accomplishments. Each line needs to be succinct and express value. If yours is well articulated, it will stand out amongst the crowd of resumes stacked on an employer’s desk. If you are someone who lacks experience or a college degree, how you articulate your skills and minimal experience is absolutely paramount. If you can express yourself clearly, show your drive and motivation and write a kickass resume, you’re a contender for any job, regardless of educational barriers.
So, how do you go about working on your writing skills? First off, you should…
“I absolutely demand of you and everyone I know that they be widely read in every damn field there is; in every religion and every art form and don’t tell me you haven’t got time! There’s plenty of time.” —Ray Bradbury
Read– read like mad. Read things from all different genres, fiction and non-fiction. Read poetry, novels, magazines, blog posts, science journals, biographies, business books and plays. The bottom line is that you should read everything you can because the more clear thoughts you read on paper, the more you will see great examples of expression that you can apply to your own writing. Also, the more you expose yourself to different styles the more you will learn structural rules. On top of all of that, you’ll learn about history, the world, how others express themselves and a whole new vocabulary. And, if you keep a dictionary or smartphone near you when you’re reading, your usable vocabulary will expand. A larger vocabulary comes in handy both in writing and during conversation.
Read About Writing
There is a reason why UnCollege’s resources page links to several writing guides and articles. To become a good writer, there are fundamental rules and structures that you need to understand. If you can employ these fundamentals, you will improve not only your writing but your editing skills, which will make you a more valuable asset.
The journey to improving your writing skills doesn’t end at reading a lot of examples and following the rules of writing. The only way to make those things applicable is to practice them, which leads us to the next step.
Make a daily writing practice. I don’t care if you don’t think you have time, make time for it. This is one of the most valuable skills you can teach yourself. Make time for it somehow.
Try out different styles and forms of writing. Keep a blog. Write poetry or blog posts as a part of your morning routine. Keep a journal. Write essays and opinion pieces. But don’t just stop with a daily writing practice…
Actively Seek Feedback
Don’t wait until your work is perfect or fine-tuned to put it out there. Get feedback, even if that feedback is hard to swallow. The reason is simple – feedback will always make your writing better. Start getting feedback from people close to you if you’re afraid, but don’t keep your writing from the world for too long.
Try freewriting and go for quantity over quality. As you write more, get more feedback and learn from that feedback, you will become a better writer. The key here is not only writing more, but getting feedback and implementing that feedback into your work.
You’ll be writing things (i.e. emails, notes, blog posts, business letters etc.) for the rest of your life. If you get good at it early on, you will benefit yourself by accelerating your career and skills at a young age. The more you write, the better you will get. If you make sure to get feedback, you will progress even faster. The trick to writing is that there are no tricks. It takes time and effort and feedback to get good. And once you’re good, that cycle doesn’t stop. You have to keep improving and writing.
So get pumped and hop to it. Getting good at it now will prove an advantage as you progress through life.
Thinking about dropping out of college takes courage. Whether or not making the leap is the right thing to do is a personal choice, but if you are seriously considering it you’ll need a plan to land on your feet.
“Planning is bringing the future into the present so that you can do something about it now.”
– Alan Lakein
There are several key elements to a successful post-dropout plan. Here are a few of the most important ones you should focus on:
Explore the Job Market
The unfortunate truth about the world is that you need money to live. No one is trading salt for iron work anymore. Currency is king, but you already knew that. There is always the possibility that you have a business idea that you want to launch now, but remember that jobs are beneficial for two reasons. One, they can fund your true passion. For example, let’s look at millionaire DJ Calvin Harris. Calvin worked as a grocery clerk while he developed his sound. That’s not a glorious job, but it gave him the money he needed to focus on his passion at night. Second, jobs can, and often are, stepping stones to new jobs, which leads us to…
Porter Gale, The ex-VP of Marketing at Virgin America says, “Your Network is Your Net Worth.” Guess what? She’s right. In the professional world who you know, plus a developed skillset, equals a quality paying job. The more people you meet, the more doors you open with large neon lights that have “opportunity!” engraved in them. If your network is small, that doesn’t bode well for you. If you don’t take the time to develop your network, all the doors you have available will lead back to your parents’ couch – and we know you don’t want that. Get out there and meet people. Go to Meetups in your area, events or anything to connect you to other people. And don’t just pass out business cards – be a resource for them as well. When you’re networking, don’t think about “what can I get from this person?” Instead, think about what you can give them or what you can do for them. Don’t expect anything in return, just give without expectations. There’s a reason it’s the number one power networking tip. Later on, if you need something, you can come to this person as a friend, and they’ll be more likely to help you because you helped them as a friend would.
Just a side note: most people do networking wrong.
Networking isn’t halloween. It’s not about getting the most candy in your pocket, yet most people play the who-can-get-the-most-business-cards game. The result of this game is that you end up with a bunch of business cards and can’t remember who they belong to or anything about that person. A business card is worthless unless you make a connection with someone. Spend more time developing relationships than trying to collect as many cards as possible. Then, make sure you take the time to follow up with them via email and set the relationship up to survive and thrive.
Find a Mentor
Who do you admire? Who has more experience and skills than you do in your area of interest? If there is someone who jumps out at you, take that person out for coffee. Ask them out for coffee again and again and again. If you take a general interest in their work, chances are they will want to help you hone your skills.
In Dale Stephens’ book, Hacking Your Education, he explains how he found mentors after moving to San Francisco to begin the professional chapter of his life; “…I started by emailing people I admired and offering to buy them coffee. Many accepted, and for this purpose I specifically budgeted $150 per month to buy coffee for people I wanted to learn from. It’s the least I could do to compensate for their time.” Dale is now one of the most well connected young professionals in Silicon Valley. Remember, the key is not coffee. It’s taking a general interest in your mentor and the experience they’ve acquired over the years. Take notes and be attentive.
Here’s something that has never changed – the value of hustle. If you don’t hustle, you won’t get anywhere. You have to light a fire under your butt and not stop untill you’re way on the other side of the line you want to cross. Don’t take it easy until you get to where you want to be. If you push yourself to do things like develop new skills, network, and make sure you have a mentor who can guide you, you’ll increase your likelihood of success exponentially. Get your mentor to help you create goals that are relevant to your situation and what you are trying to achieve. Bounce ideas off of people in your newfound network. Do whatever it takes to get where you want to go.
Dropping out isn’t for everyone. Its a challenge; it marks a new level of personal responsibility. But if you do it right, you could end up leaps and bounds ahead of where you would have been if you stayed in college, unmotivated and just “getting by.” So take some time to think about it and be sure to reach out to the UnCollege staff with any questions.
Times have changed. When it comes to learning, there are more options than ever available for your children. The problem is the exciting variety of choices are simply overwhelming! That’s one of the reasons we started the UnCollege Blog – to create a community and provide valuable resources for anyone interested in navigating the breadth of learning options available today, especially those related to self-directed learning. Below, we’ve collected several that you should read and share with your teen.
Click here to see the Parent Resource Guide PDF or view the plain text below.
A letter to parents and Hackdemics about communicating and decision making.
A guide to help teens determine their interests and build professional experience.
How your teen can make the most of their first year in college.
Understanding the hackademic mindset.
4 important skills you need to master as a self-directed learner.
Alternative education models for doers.
How one UnCollege fellow generated one million website views and made her mark on the fashion industry.
As a parent, you are faced with many challenges, none of which are more complicated than helping your children through the transition into adulthood. Teenagers have enough to worry about in their day-to-day lives, which makes thinking about the future extremely stressful. To help them through this process, your most valuable asset is your ability to listen.
Empathetic listening is one of the most powerful ways we have to demonstrate our love and support. It seems like such an easy thing to do, but it takes time, an open heart, and practice to become a great listener. You must learn to be patient and refrain from trying to jump in and fix things for your child when they seek space to think and fully express themselves.
Here are a few links to articles on communication and resources from other sites that we find helpful:
The first two resources are from the Challenge Day website. Even though the tips address helping a teen with a weight challenge, they provide useful techniques for supporting your teen in any circumstance. The chapter download describes an actual listening session between a parent and child. It is very powerful.
The following links are articles written by Kate Michi who presented two workshops to Gap Year Fellows about communicating across differences. There are exercises and links to further communication and listening resources within the articles.
Here are some questions that will help you establish a healthy dialogue with your teen about their future.
How do you define authentic success? A life well lived?
What does it mean to thrive? How can I help you to thrive?
What really matters? Why?
What do you care about? Why is that important to you?
What is your biggest dream?
What support do you want from us? What support do we feel we can give?
Have you ever participated in a workathon? Have you ever brought a complex idea to life in less than 36 hours? At UnCollege, we host a workathon every once in a while just to find out what the participants in our program (known as fellows) are capable of creating in such a short time. In fact, we hosted one last week and the results were astounding. Read on to find out what our 12 Gap Year fellows came up with during one sleepless night and an action-packed day.
After concepting their ideas around the dinner hour, some fellows took to their computers, clacking away on their keyboards while others stayed out all night working on physical project that one cannot find in the “cloud.” When motivation and energy slowed, the fellows encouraged each other and continued to work-work-work.
work, work, work.
The next morning, the fellows were rewarded for their work with pancakes made by the UnCollege staff.
After a short break to refuel, the fellows returned to their work, this time along with the support of the UnCollege staff who chose to join in and work alongside the fellows in solidarity. As the fellows began to work on the finishing touches of their projects, we could feel the anticipation in the air. The whistle blew – time was up. It was time to see the results.
Before the presentation, Gabe, a Program Specialist at UnCollege, explained the purpose of the work marathon:
“The purpose is not only to challenge yourself and go from idea to product in two days, but also to have something to add to your portfolio. After the initial work marathon is over, the fellows can go back and tweak their projects – or not – and have something tangible to add to their portfolio. That’s also why the work marathon is so open-ended, because we want the fellows to have something they value and enjoy doing as a part of their portfolios.”
Here’s what the fellows came up with:
Keri coded her own website from scratch, going totally outside of her comfort zone and knowledge base. She taught herself everything she needed to know, having no prior knowledge of code, during the work marathon and still managed to build a functional website.
Nick Mares spent his workathon to further develop his startup – bonebroths. Bonebroths is a broth company catering to the popular Paleo lifestyle movement. Nick made hours of phone calls and sent endless emails trying to find a shipping solution for his products. He also spent time interacting with his customers, making sales and furthering his business development. Learn more about bonebroths here: http://bonebroths.com/
Justin created Thoughts In A Box – a web app that collects the 20 most recent tweets for two distinct hashtags and displays them randomly with each click of your mouse. The app also has an additional function that, for every click, adds a 1 in 100 chance of randomly landing on Justin’s personal website. Now that’s what we call good, fun marketing.
Daniel Carnduff and Jason Sachse
Daniel and Jason paired up to make a music video for a song Daniel had written previously. They went around town taking video clips and spent time editing them and syncing them with Daniel’s song. The final product will be available soon and we’ll be sure to share it.
Ilkin didn’t start from scratch, but instead used the 36 hours to further develop her site – The Overlooked City. IIkin worked tirelessly to set up, shoot and edit pictures for her site as well as refining its look and feel. The Overlooked City seeks to unveil the hidden beauty of metropolitan areas in an artistic, thought-provoking way.
Addie, who is developing Beats of the Streets – a diverse, fashion-forward website – took to the street to ask people about their personalized fashion and capture interesting photos to showcase on the site. Addy also sifted through thrift stores and put together five outfits for under $20. If you are looking for some trendy, inexpensive styles, check out the site.
Nick Sherinian made a professional lyric book for Daniel, handwriting all of his lyrics in cursive, as well as making two glass-blown pieces, one of a person and one of a bear.
Sharan made stylistic avatars of all the fellows and staff that can be used as profile pictures on Facebook, LinkedIn and other sites. He also turned these graphics into business cards for everyone.
Natalie made a fingerless glove with the Hyrule symbol, from the Legend of Zelda video game, on the back out of chainmail. She painstakingly weaved every single metal ring into a three-dimensional piece that fit her hand perfectly.
Rayan spent countless hours interviewing Uber drivers in order to post their unique stories, rants, and interactions to a Facebook page he’s developed. For some solid entertainment, you can give them a read here: https://www.facebook.com/voicetopeople
Charles wrote a dubstep song using only his own knowledge of the program he was using and no additional tutorials or outside sources. If you want to get pumped up, you can listen to his song here.
All in all, our fellows came up with some very impressive stuff, and had a great time doing it.
What did you accomplish in the last 36 hours?
As hackademics, we often have the added task of self-motivation when it comes to directing our own education. While everyone has that task, we seem to feel its burden more in that we strive for more independence in our educational and professional lives. Self-motivation is a hard thing to achieve when you aren’t super pumped for something. But it definitely can be done.
Soon, the UnCollege fellows will be gearing up for their second work marathon. They will stay up all night working on a project of their choice, which will be unveiled at the end of the 36 hour marathon. Here at UnCollege, we have a few tricks that we use to keep ourselves motivated to do our work, not just during work marathons, but on a daily basis.
Remember that your lack of motivation isn’t permanent. Don’t stress yourself out by thinking about how you “should” be getting more done. That’s just going to distract you from getting anything done. Often times, our lack of motivation, and consequently our procrastination, comes from the fact that we’re not pumped. We’re not happy. We’re down, for whatever reason. And trying to ignore what we’re feeling will just make that thing more powerful and apparent in our minds. It’s like if I told you not to think about penguins. What do you think of first? Penguins. You can’t help it. That’s how our brains work. The more you try to not think about how you’re not motivated, you’re going to continue to be unmotivated.
Instead, acknowledge whatever you’re feeling, and then think about the fact that it’s temporary. Look for things that aren’t so bad. Take pride in every task you accomplish. Practice gratitude. Take a minute to make a list of five or ten things you’re grateful for. When you come back to your work after doing this, you’ll find that you don’t feel as “stuck” as you did before. Gratitude and optimism are great ways to get over your current reality, if even by a bit.
Set SMART Goals
In order to do this one, you need to know what SMART stands for:
If you use this criteria to set your goals for yourself, you will find that they will be more achievable. Since you will be able to see your progress, you will be able to be continuously motivated by that. In addition, you’ll have a deadline hanging over your head, pushing you to the finish when you don’t have motivation enough to do it yourself.
One other great part about setting SMART goals is that because they are specific, you can start acting on them right away. They aren’t vague, with no real place to start. Since they are specific, you will know exactly where to start and the certainty of that is a factor in motivation. You don’t have to spend time figuring it out, you just have to do that thing. It’s a little easier to be pumped for it. Even if you just want to get it over with.
During their coaching sessions, our fellows focus on setting SMART goals with their coaches, who keep them accountable for those goals, which leads us to another huge factor in motivation:
If you have someone who you are held accountable to when you make these goals, you are more likely to complete them. You won’t want to let that person down. So, whether or not you are motivated that day, you can motivate yourself to do that thing in order to not let that person down. When we are held accountable, we do better because being held accountable is motivation in itself. We don’t have to do so much of the work of motivating ourselves when we know that someone else has expectations of us.
In the same vein of accountability is peer pressure. If you spend a lot of time with people who are lazy, you’ll end up being lazy, or at least more lazy than you normally would be. Often, we don’t realize how much of an impact the people we surround ourselves with have on us until later, when we aren’t surrounded by them anymore and have time to reflect. If you want to be motivated, surround yourself with motivated people. If you want motivation to do a certain thing, like learn a new language, surround yourself with people who are doing the same.
When you’re surrounded by people you want to be like, you’ll find yourself becoming more and more like them. You are the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Who are those people? What are they like? Should you reevaluate who you spend your time with?
Luckily, during their launch phase, the fellows spend a lot of time with like-minded, ambitious and motivated people. This makes work marathons run smoothly, even in the toughest time when everyone wants to be asleep. Since everyone is working through the night, it becomes easier to do the same. Peer pressure isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes, it can get a lot accomplished.
Celebrating what you’ve accomplished is a great way to keep yourself motivated over the course of the day. There are lots of ways to do this, but I would suggest not rewarding yourself with food (at least not every time). Eating is a part of self-care and shouldn’t be a part of motivation. Besides, you might gain weight and that would be bad, especially if you’re trying to motivate yourself to lose weight.
There are many ways to reward yourself, like reading an interesting article or watching a youtube video after you skyped in French with your language exchange partner for a half hour. Or you could take a short walk or buy yourself a book you’ve been wanting to read. Whatever will motivate you and whatever fits with the scale of what you’re doing. And remember to set this reward before you start the task, so you can motivate yourself with the reward.
Remember Your “Why”
If you keep your reason for doing what you’re doing in sight, the end goal will motivate you to continue. Write it down and keep it on your desk or wherever you work. Write it on a post-it and stick that to your laptop keyboard or the side of your screen. Keep it in sight so when you start to run out of juice, you can look at it and find a spark inside you to keep going. Even if your reason is something like getting out of a crappy job or to prove your friends wrong about your decision to drop out, that’s a better reason than none. Write it down and pursue it. When you start to feel your motivation being sapped, it will carry you through. You can do this for your SMART goals, too, for a reminder and for motivation.
Remember to Take Breaks
If you’re trying to work solidly for 8 hours without stopping, you might be insane. Taking breaks is beneficial to the work we do and to us as humans. Try using the Pomodoro technique to force yourself to take breaks if you struggle to know when you “should” take them. Breaks in your work day will help you to focus when it’s focus time. And, if you really hate what you’re doing, you can barrel through it just for the break that lies at the end.
As an added benefit, it’s good for your brain and body to move around when you take breaks. Get off your butt and do a few jumping jacks to get the blood flowing. Just giving your body a bit of exercise will help get your brain in gear to re-focus when the time comes. If you do the same thing in the same place for too long, you’ll end up just staring, empty at some point. Don’t let yourself get to that point. Be proactive and keep it from happening instead of having to fix it when it does.
Even during work marathons, the fellows take breaks to chat, play video games, watch funny Youtube videos or cook food. These breaks are fundemental to them getting their projects done, and with the peer pressure around them, it is assured that their breaks won’t last too long.
This is something that really helps the fellows in the thick of their work marathons, during that stretch period sometime after 2 a.m. until their normal wake-up time. Listening to something to get yourself pumped up during your focus time is really great. Not only does it block out a lot of distractions, but when you’re listening to music, your brain is really active in a lot of places. This will help you get into “the zone” where you’re coming up with a lot of ideas or you’re focusing and getting a lot done. It also has a powerful effect on our emotions, and the right music can up your motivation a ton. You can go from totally unmotivated to in the zone and making progress in the space of one or two good songs. Take some time to figure out what kind of music and what artists work well for you, and keep a running list of the stuff that gets you pumped.
Trick your brain into thinking you don’t have a bunch to do. Tell yourself you’re going to only do one task, or only work for 5 minutes, one song or one pomodoro. Once you get started, you’re halfway there. Starting really is hard, and once you’ve done that, you can push ahead with more ease.
Don’t Be So Hard On Yourself
All in all, it’s hard to motivate yourself sometimes. That’s part of being human. Don’t sit there and think about how you aren’t doing enough and you need to get more done. Don’t insult yourself in your head – admit it, we all do it – for not having the same output as yesterday. Today is a different day, and if you’d give yourself a chance you’d probably amaze yourself with how much you get done.
You’ll never know what you could do if you instead spend your time bashing yourself in your head. You’re brilliant. You’ve got this. You’re just in a rough spot. Take a second, take a deep breath, and then try out one – or all; I’d be really flattered if you did them all – of these methods.You’ll find that you really are brilliant and you can motivate yourself way better this way than by beating yourself up. And when you do find your motivation, savor it. Enjoy it. Because you got yourself there by being awesome.